- Adoptive Parent Recruitment , Foster Parent Recruitment
- July 25, 2018
Whether they’re 9, 10, 13, 15, or even 17, there’s a magic to being the last and final stop for a child who has been waiting for a family for what seems like forever. These are incredible parenting opportunities that are literally waiting for those of us who are open to the possibilities. Here are 6 surprising reasons to open your heart and your home to these children who are alone and need us now and more than ever.
#1 They are waiting for their firsts. Many children, even 17 year olds, have never carved pumpkins or colored easter eggs. They may have never enjoyed a big family Thanksgiving or Christmas. They almost certainly have not received a driver’s permit or license. Or traveled on an airplane. And we can surely tell you that have never had the privilege of visiting a college. They aren’t traditional firsts, like learning to walk and learning to talk, but they are important firsts and they’re waiting for you to experience and enjoy.
#2 They can tell you all about their lives, giving you a vital opportunity to write your parenting script, and allowing you to identify the needs. Older children can also more fully participate in counseling. They can have a say in their adoption and are able to fully appreciate the love and stability of a permanent home.
#3 They can more easily assimilate into family activities. Whether they’re young enough to see Disney movies and old enough to drink coffee. There are so many things that you can enjoy together.
#4 They’re more self-sufficient. They can dress themselves, keep to a schedule, read their books, and prepare to get ready for bed. Warning, they may have never been tucked in, so spending those tender moments together as you end the day and prepare for the next are very important to them. These moments are great parenting opportunities.
#5 They’re less expensive. Take out the costs of formula, diapers, preschool, and day care. Preparing for college is a real concern, however, and we’re here to tell you that children in foster care or adopted through foster care have a plethora of financial opportunities to pay for college.
#6 They’re great company. Whether you’re going to the movies or going out to lunch, they drink up your attention and like spending time with adults they can trust. You may have found your new best buddy, who, by the way, will be by your side for the rest of your life.
Happy endings are possible. Learn about adopting an older child this Saturday, 9:30am, at St. Theresa of Avila Church in Chicago. Hear from our panel of experts, learn how to navigate the process, and consider some of the children who are waiting. This event is free, as is the complete foster and adoption process. Please register here.
Let It Be Us is a 501(c)(3) with the mission of adoption and education of children in Illinois foster care. We recruit foster and adoptive parents for waiting Illinois children.
ABOUT THIS AUTHOR:
Susan McConnell, Founder & Executive Director, Let It Be Us
Susan is an adoptive mother and a tireless advocate for children awaiting adoption from foster care. Her work has raised millions for philanthropic projects and has won numerous awards. She is most proud of the congressional award for her 12 year commitment to children in foster care through the Heart Gallery of Illinois. Learn More